Get Over Yourself

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“It’s your fault I forgot.”

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What do these four scenarios have in common?

  • A man explains his lack of work performance on the fact that too much was asked of him before noon and he simply is “not a morning person.”
  • A woman misses an important appointment at her doctor’s office and when they call to inquire as to her absence she snaps, “Well you scheduled me on a Tuesday and I am used to Wednesday appointments.  It’s your fault I forgot.”
  • A college student arrives at a class he usually “cuts” and is handed a test which he didn’t know about because he cut the class the week before. He complains that he should be allowed to take it at a later date because since he missed the previous class he simply “did not know.”
  • An “insufficient balance” notice appears on a bank statement which causes a check to bounce and the angered bank customer comes into the bank and screams at the teller even though the account was clearly overdrawn.

Clearly the common thread here is a lack of personal responsibility followed by the colossal ego/nerve of the person in the scenario expecting some sort of special treatment despite their own neglect.

My response?

Please, get over yourself.

I mean really. This attitude blows me away anymore and it seems like I see it all the time now. It reeks of the likelihood of a spoiled child who never set an alarm clock in their life because they instead had mommy wake them up for school, for work, for appointments, etc. “Mom! How could you forget to wake me? Now I’m late and it’s your fault!”

See, the mindset that this type of person maintains is very self-serving. It’s like they assume all of life is centered around them and existence is just this ongoing, long-running movie called, “My Big Adventure.” The rest of us are just supporting actors in this drama.  We are here to keep the plot moving and assist the “star” in any way possible.

Are you kidding me?

Get over yourself.

I’ve lived through some extreme examples of this and watched it blow up in the face of the self-proclaimed superstar.

As a drummer in a few jazz and garage rock bands, I observed some of the players in the group who thought they were a little better or more talented than the rest of the gang. They often sought solo opportunities or played with other bands simultaneously; always letting the band know they were just that one bit better than the rest. Inevitably, these people would break off and try their act solo and if they bombed, they would come running back to the group looking to build bridges and mend fences. Often, if they didn’t come back, they eventually just stopped playing altogether. Rare was the player who went further on his own. But why all the issues? Why all the drama? We were little play-for-fun garage bands. Those stories are more like the lives of high profile musicians like Lionel Ritchie (who left The Commodores) and Paul McCartney (who left The Beatles). While I believe everyone should take an individual shot at some goal or something they believe in, it can be done without acting like you have musical supremacy over the rest of the team. Just enjoy the music and what you are doing. Stop reading your own press and get over yourself, for your own sake. Humility improves your “like-ability.” You really ought to try it!

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