Feeding Frenzy

This focus on the negative affects us negatively every day. Here are some typical statements we are guilty of making or agreeing with, and the responses we should give to stop negativity in its tracks.

“They never tell me anything.” RESPONSE: “Do you ever ask?”

“You never take me anywhere.” RESPONSE: “Do you take me anywhere?”

“That’s what they want you to think.” RESPONSE: “What do you really think?”

“I’m so over it I can’t talk about it now.” RESPONSE: “Tell me when you’ll be ready.”

“Things are not like they used to be.” RESPONSE: “Were the old days any better?”

“No one listens to me, ever.” RESPONSE: “I’m listening now. Tell me.”

“I don’t ask why any more.” RESPONSE: “Maybe you should.”

Do you see the pattern? We throw out something negative with reckless abandon and then walk away. We simply do not take responsibility in any form. So, maybe the responses above would be good when facing those sensationalists. They never tell us anything? Well, maybe we ought to ask once in a while. We are too upset to talk? Well, when we calm down, then we can talk. Things aren’t the way they used to be. Yeah, and sitting in the driveway, fanning ourselves with the evening paper while the temperature in the house is about 100 F doesn’t have the allure for me it once did either. Give me a break.

When some workers approach the weekend, they say, “Thank God tomorrow is Friday.” Most of the people I know that say that have had a fairly easy week. Unless there was a labor camp they checked into at night, it looked like Monday through Thursday included solid meals, a comfortable bed and the camaraderie of good friends at work. Why do they exclaim about how much time-off is deserved?

Mean What You Say

Here’s the bottom line: BP took some risks and a huge problem developed, causing the controversy. While we are all saddened about the way it went, no one was more anxious to find a solution than BP, The spill cost the company millions and was killing their public-relations and market representations.

When we are skidding out of control on an icy highway, would it help to have our high-school driver’s-education teacher sitting next to us, screaming, “What the heck are you doing?” When our Little Leaguer strikes out on three pitches, would it help him to ask, “What’s wrong with you?” If our spouse drops a dish in the kitchen, would it be helpful to immediately bellow from the other room, “What happened in there?” Of course not. What happened was an accident. If we got up and asked if our partner was okay, we would show some empathy and concern. If we didn’t exacerbate the situation by yelling, we would show understanding. And if we said something like, “That’s happened to me also,” we would show compassion. We could still investigate, but that approach would take the heat out of the situation, making people respond more truthfully. Why did BP move so cautiously and minimize their statements throughout this crisis? Because, who knew what we may do with each tidbit of information? We twist it like a pretzel until it sounds as bad as possible; that’s become the news. It’s not the event, but the implications, the outrage, the nerve, the deception, and we are solely to blame. We show the media what we want.

Come Together

I’m not letting BP off the hook for what the company did. But why was President Obama getting angry, with the firing of BP’s CEO the highest priority on the schedule? We’re starting to resemble our knuckle-dragging, club-carrying, prehistoric ancestors. We love the fight, the conflict and the view of another suffering his licks. We’ve become so blinded by our desire for that “pound of flesh” that we forget the original intention altogether.

The Gulf oil crisis occurred, and instead of handling it as if were the international space station, where all countries come together, we rolled up our sleeves and began throwing the blame at anybody within range. Is this the state of things for a world that is touting the need for universal global finance and money management? We have a lot of growing up to do before we even think about days like that. The spirit of cooperation seems to be headed for disassembly through a lack of respect for tolerance and compassion. It’s probably the result of our inability to think straight because of those greedy factories responsible for global warming.

Ron Ciancutti is the Purchasing Manager for Cleveland Metroparks. He is not on Facebook, but he can be reached at rdc@clevelandmetroparks.com

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